An All-Business Barker
Last Thursday, I held a demonstration at Belle Vue Wilmington, nestled in the Brooklyn Arts District of Wilmington, NC. It was a perfect evening. After the October event, I realized some changes were needed to refine the format. Hosting 40+ people had been more energy than I was prepared to handle. Add in the catering, set-up, clean-up, and all the coordinating details, and the event had turned into a full-scale production.
I want these gatherings to be dignified, honoring both those who attend and their loved ones in spirit, but I had overcomplicated things.
A New Format
Out with the old, and in with the new! This year is all about simplicity, connection, and grace. The first event of the year got off to a wonderful start. I made several changes: seating was reconfigured to theater-style facing the front door, attendance was capped at 15, and the extras were pared back.
Feedback from repeat attendees was positive—they loved the new seating arrangement and didn’t miss the food or alcohol. However, many suggested providing something small, like water and a light cheese or cookie tray, for the social time after the demonstration.
Since the post-event conversations are always rich and meaningful, I’ll aim for a middle ground before the next event on Wednesday, February 5.
The Messages of Love
As always, the loved ones who came through were unique, bringing evidence to express their personalities, life stories, and cherished memories in beautiful and touching ways.
I learn something new with every demonstration, and this time was no exception.
One spirit in particular left everyone giggling—and I’m still laughing! A very serious black Scottish terrier, with some grey around his mouth, came through. He described himself as an “old man” his entire life, and his owner confirmed this with a smile. He showed me his personality with such flair—wearing a vest, carrying a briefcase, and topping it off with a hat.
He even had strong opinions! He said the golden dog he lived with “didn’t go anywhere in life” because he “lacked discipline and ambition.” The room erupted with laughter when his owner confirmed that this serious terrier had indeed shared his life with an overly energetic yellow dog.
An Invitation
It’s always an honor to connect with the hearts and souls of your loved ones—family, friends, and even pets. I hope to see you at a future event at Belle Vue or another location. Together, we’ll share moments of connection, clarity, and laughter as we honor the messages of love.
Love, Kathryn
